It’s been four years that I left my country into this land of dreams.USA, as to pursue my high education degree. The vivid picture of my native people still comes crystal clear in my mind. I can’t resist these nostalgic feelings overwhelming my heart every moment of this busy life. To know the meaning of the term “neighborhood” , one doesn’t need to Google on net or refer the dictionary. There are many things which one learns from the contextualization. Indeed. The literal meaning of the term “neighborhood”, according to Oxford dictionary is “a number of persons living near one another in a particular locality”. Man, being social by nature needs everyone, near and there, for the shake of security, prosperity and harmony. The feeling of neighborhood is tied up with every human rights and duties.
I was born in an old house, a typical replica of ancient newari house, attached with other two houses in either side. From the day I started speaking, I recognized these two houses as my neighboring houses, the ones with whom I need to share the rest of surroundings, walking pathways, corridors and the likes. Mr. Ramman Prajapati, to the left of my house, was closed to our family. What a neighbor should be, I got the true meaning out from him. I still remember when he allowed his bare land for use when we had to carry our funeral grandfather’s funeral program. He, very generously grant us that land for that day. I can never forget how he encouraged my father to send me abroad for the study.neighborhood is born between the unknown people when there is the existence of mutual “give and take” relation. It is an obvious when people turn into neighbors for one another because they share a common living and a common surrounding as a whole.
Back to my hometown, I remember there used to be Mr.Hari Kafle to the right of my house. I never liked being his neighbor. In fact, I used to wish that he would leave the locality. I don’t remember how I complete my study along with those piercing noise that used to come from my right-sided-house. My father, along with Mr. Ramman Prajapati, had very often asked him for not to do such rude acts. The only incident I which I couldn’t forget is that when he refused to allow us to use his water during my sister’s marriage. Perhaps he used to be the most mean and cunning person in our locality. My father along with other had tried a lot to improve such behavior. It was when he lost his wife in a bus accident and we, being the neighbors, were all around him to surpass his difficult time. That was the moment when he asked forgiveness from all of others for his wrong acts.
Neighborhood is the relationship that is born irrespective of the blood-relation.one cannot refer his relatives in every urgent situation, but there would be always those helping hands in the form of neighbors who readily show their concern in our every little matter. There is a very right saying in Nepali” chemiki ko garma salko lagnu vaneko afno garma aago lagnu ho ”i.e. the trouble in neighbors’ home is our own trouble too. A good neighbor is the one who serves his selfless help to his neighbor. A neighboring feeling that is received from neighborhood is warmth in itself- a step towards humanity. When one is willing to share with and help to other human being without any blood relationship, it is the neighborhood. It is the same proximity approach that helps to create “we-feeling “bond among each other. One thing is certain that when a man is turned down by all of his rear and dear ones, it is that neighbor who would be always there to comfort and wow him/her. It is an evidence that how an eloped couple, a helpless person set their new world when there’s nobody around them, but their surrounding-sharers.
“We-feeling” and “give and take” is what neighborhood is concerned with. A sound neighborhood marks the well-being of the community, society and the nation as a whole. The mutuality that exists despite of the natural human instincts like jealousy, pride, rigidity, selfishness, etc march the rest of the community towards the progress. If one can understand the importance of neighborhood ,its is a boon for one’s overall personal development.